It's another boy. I am so very happy! We have picked out the name Noah James. I have also decided that this will be it for me. I think that two boys will be enough to raise and although I thought I would be disappointed if I didn't have one of each, I continue to hold with my feelings about everything happening for a reason. I think as I look ahead now that two boys are exactly what I want. Which brings me to the title of my post today, deserve what you want.
I was reading an article or a blog, these things are becoming confusing with the increasing number of blogs out there, and read that you deserve what you want. I was doing some soul searching, not for any particular reason other than being pregnant and emotional and faced with the fact I am bringing another life into the world, and came across this obvious yet meaningful mantra. Deserve What You Want.
After deep consideration of this I have come to conclude that there are two likely explanations for this school of thought. The first is that we all deserve, in some manner of speaking, what we want simply because every man is free to follow his own happiness and to pursue those things that bring joy and elation to life. Whose to tell us we don't deserve the nice home with picket fence anyway? My second explanation is to deserve what we want, we have to work hard for it and earn it. This one is more logical to me because I came from a home where nothing was ever handed to me, I had to work and earn, but more importantly I had to appreciate.
I will never forget the one time my father accused my brother and myself of being ingrates. I had to go to the bookshelf and pull out the dictionary to look up the word. Was it really an accusation or was there some truth to it? I remember being insulted when I discovered the meaning and thinking to myself "I am too grateful." At the time, I probably wasn't. I was probably caught up in the I want everything my friends have and they didn't work for it, whoa is me stage in my life. Needless to say, the truth hit home and caused me to reflect and make some changes. I learned more from hearing the anger and disappointment in my father's voice that day then I ever did at church on the subject of being thankful for what I have. And now when I catch myself thinking, wouldn't it be nice if I had this or that, I reflect on what I do have and am grateful. And if, if, it is something I really want, I work hard for it, earn and appreciate it. I deserve it.
I guess there isn't really a correct way of looking at my new mantra. Allowing it to set in and cause reflection is enough. Deserve what you want, I guess it should be laced with and find a way to get it.
After deep consideration of this I have come to conclude that there are two likely explanations for this school of thought. The first is that we all deserve, in some manner of speaking, what we want simply because every man is free to follow his own happiness and to pursue those things that bring joy and elation to life. Whose to tell us we don't deserve the nice home with picket fence anyway? My second explanation is to deserve what we want, we have to work hard for it and earn it. This one is more logical to me because I came from a home where nothing was ever handed to me, I had to work and earn, but more importantly I had to appreciate.
I will never forget the one time my father accused my brother and myself of being ingrates. I had to go to the bookshelf and pull out the dictionary to look up the word. Was it really an accusation or was there some truth to it? I remember being insulted when I discovered the meaning and thinking to myself "I am too grateful." At the time, I probably wasn't. I was probably caught up in the I want everything my friends have and they didn't work for it, whoa is me stage in my life. Needless to say, the truth hit home and caused me to reflect and make some changes. I learned more from hearing the anger and disappointment in my father's voice that day then I ever did at church on the subject of being thankful for what I have. And now when I catch myself thinking, wouldn't it be nice if I had this or that, I reflect on what I do have and am grateful. And if, if, it is something I really want, I work hard for it, earn and appreciate it. I deserve it.
I guess there isn't really a correct way of looking at my new mantra. Allowing it to set in and cause reflection is enough. Deserve what you want, I guess it should be laced with and find a way to get it.
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